Monday, August 31, 2015

The Pros and Cons of Being an Army Wife (Spouse)

(Pictures from when Evan graduated AIT January 2012!!)

I've recently been asked what the pros and cons of being an army wife entails because their other half is considering joining. So, because of my screaming and crying children, I wasn't able to tell her over the phone. Instead I've decided to make a post about it. It will be easier to read and look back at for future reference. Please be aware that my pros and cons may be different from other peoples pros and cons because everyone is different and unique in their own way. And the army life isn't for everyone. There's the spouse's that have awful experiences and can't deal, then there are those who have the same experiences and are able to glide through it like it's nothing.

PROS
  • Your spouse is serving the United States of America! 
  • He/She is fighting/ is training to fight for your freedom!
  • Housing on post is amazing. (depending on where you are stationed.)
  • If you get on post housing, the size of your house doesn't matter because your BAH (basic allowance for housing) will cover it all! (house,lawn care, trash, electricity, and utilities.) Oh and if you use less than the amount that is covered, you get a return check!
  • Every neighborhood (maybe, depending on where you are stationed) on post has a community office which includes a small gym, inside conference rooms, a play room/vending room, a huge playground, and a pool for free. 
  • On every base, there is a USO which is basically a place that has events and fun crafts and activities to do with your family.
  • No matter where you go, you will have an FRG (a family readiness group) which is extremely helpful.
  • The fact that maybe...just maybe you'll get a chance to pcs to Hawaii, Germany, or Japan...And the Army gets to pay for it. So it's like a free move to an awesome destination.
  • You get payed a few hundred extra bucks while your spouse is deployed as a sorry note from taking your spouse away. sincerely, the army.
  • You get to meet new people everywhere you go!
  • 'Merica!
CONS
  • (The obvious.) Your spouse is gone...quite often.
  • Your significant other will often miss important events/holiday such as: birthdays, weddings, births, deaths, father's/mother's days, anniversaries, Halloween, Hanukkah, Christmas, etc. etc. 
  • Your schedule does not matter. 
  • You can never fully plan a trip to Disney Land, Cancun, or anywhere really, unless it is 100% refundable because with your spouse being in the army, you never know.
  • Army gear and clothes all over the house...all the time. 
  • Having to say goodbye to your new best friends because either they are moving else where or you are moving.
  • If you have kids in school, they have to learn to say goodbye to their best friends when their family moves.
I can't think of anything else at the moment but these are some of the main points that came to my mind when making this list. If any army wife or spouse is reading this and you can think of some more pros and cons, feel free to comment them below! If you're a regular reader, you probably already know how rough and rewarding the army life has been. We've definitely had some ups and downs with the army and sometimes I wish Evan had a normal job, but this is what he wants to do and as his wife I fully support him.